The Space Between Connections: A Reflection

I recently attended a lovely “Connections Dinner” hosted by The Hollister Group where the energy was electric. All of the guests had been assigned a specific table, and once we sat down and began introducing ourselves, we noticed there was one empty chair at our table. We were wondering if someone had been unable to attend at the last minute only to discover that there was an empty chair at every table, a deliberate and intentional empty chair. 

Between the appetizer and dinner course, our hosts finally let us in on their plan; they asked each of us to contemplate what that empty seat might symbolize and share our thoughts with our table-mates. It was a powerful conversation. Not surprisingly, and importantly, there were compelling viewpoints about inclusiveness, representation, and equity, and what organizations need to do to make sure there is a seat at the table for all. But also raised the sobering question of all, “If you do have a seat at the table, do you actually have a voice?”

Many of the reflections also revolved around lives lost following the mass shootings in Maine and the ongoing wars in Israel and Ukraine, as well as all the families who have lost loved ones who never returned home while serving to keep our country safe. There are far too many homes where there will be an empty seat, or seats, at the table, and not just here in America. But there was also one uplifting and hopeful thought; the idea of potential, of a brighter future, and the opportunity to make a difference and to be of service in this world.

Here in the U.S., we will celebrate Thanksgiving this month where many families and friends will gather together to celebrate this holiday. May we pause and remember who is not at the table, and why, and the potential impact of their absence, and may we also be thankful for all the blessings we do have.

What does that empty seat at the table mean to you?